“I am jealous with a godly jealousy. I promised you to one husband, to Christ, so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him.” ~ 2 Corinthians 11:2
It seems lately that everywhere I turn, someone is getting married or in a new serious relationship. And I’m not. Yes, there is a man who has my interest, but God has told me ‘not yet’, and so I’m waiting. It crossed my mind today that this doesn’t actually bother me, and for a minute I was thinking it should. I mean, I’m 28 years old, and if I have plans to have the big family I want, I’d better get going!
Then I realized something. I had it right the first time. It doesn’t bother me, and it shouldn’t bother me. See, there’s one relationship that is more important than all the others, and it’s not with any man here on earth. It’s with the One who saw me before I was seen on this earth, who loved into existence in the first place, who loves me unconditionally and who is there to provide for me always.
See, as Christians, we are the Bride of Christ. It’s in multiple places in the Bible. Even the old testament references it. And if Christ is my true and eternal husband, it means that the husband I have here on earth is just going to be borrowing me for awhile. Whereas Christ will have me forever. So shouldn’t I focus on my relationship with Jesus first, and let the earthly stuff come out of that?
There is so much God is doing in me lately. He’s been showing me that even my personality traits have a root of either Him or the world, and He has been doing a lot of work in me showing me what I need to give over to Him. It’s been amazing.
And I wouldn’t trade it. I want to draw closer to Him, to walk with Him in every moment and love Him with all I have. I trust Him to provide for me while I’m here on the earth, and if that means sending me an earthly husband to borrow me for my here, then I welcome that. If it doesn’t, I’m ok with that too.
I’m not saying don’t ever date, and I’m not saying don’t be interested in relationships and marriage. I’m saying….focus first on your true eternal Marriage. The earthly one is secondary. Our priorities can be so skewed when it comes to this area, but the bottom line is, our earthly relationships – be they spousal, romantic, or friendship – are secondary.
So take a second to reflect on your day or your week. Think about how much time you invested in other people – how much time did you spend flirting, pining over someone, desiring a man or a relationship? How much time did you invest in your friends? Did you invest time in Christ with the same enthusiasm? Maybe you focused on other people at His expense – skipped prayer or bible readings to do so. One thing is for sure. You have His full attention and you have His desire. Let’s make an effort to give Him ours!
Meanwhile, watch this video. If you are single and looking, or even if you want encouragement in not looking, you need to watch it. It puts things in perspective and speaks the truth.
I Will Wait For You