Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord. –Psalm 27:14
When we first started this blog, I was a single woman still grieving a breakup that had happened a couple years prior. I struggled to move on from that relationship even though I knew it wasn’t God’s will for me. Every year that went by became more distressing as I saw my chances at motherhood waning.
There were times during this period that I was blissfully aware of God’s presence and provision. I was content to wait for His best for me. I recognized that my singlehood brought unique opportunities to serve Him. Yet, there were painful stretches of time where I failed to see Him through my loneliness and despair. There were many difficult days. The years of being alone weighed on me. I constantly felt guilty because I knew that He was everything that I needed, and yet I still desired human companionship.
Today I am a married woman with three beautiful step-children. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t thank God for these precious gifts in my life! My husband is so loving and caring. He is very attentive to my needs and treats me far better than I deserve. He treats me so well that I have trouble accepting it. I never quite believed that anyone could care about me enough to treat me the way he does.
My step-children are sweet and respectful. They accepted me into the family almost immediately. Growing closer to them has probably been the most fulfilling aspect of my life to date. It was the day I met them that I knew my relationship with their father could work. I would not allow myself to fall for him until I knew I could love his children too. Really love them. It would not have been fair to the children or their dad if I could not.
I wish I could go back and tell my single self that she will be okay. I would tell her that the years of singlehood will be worth the wait. That God is setting everything up and not to lament the period of preparation. I would tell her that I couldn’t have met my husband sooner because neither of us were in the place we needed to be yet, but that it would make our meeting that much sweeter when the time came. People tried to tell me this, but I struggled to believe them.
That’s not to say that marriage and step-parenting is all sunshine and rainbows. It’s hard work. It’s draining. But it’s so rewarding. It is so beautiful. It is everything I hoped it would be.
God has been by my side through all of it. Through the lonely days that came before and the sometimes all-consuming days I experience now. God truly has our best in mind. He sincerely takes care of our every need. He loves us more than anyone else ever has or ever can. He is all in all. Every good and perfect gift comes from Him.
If you are single (or in some other period of waiting), please believe me, God is working things out for your good. He sees your struggle. He knows your tears. He’s allowing this trial in your life because He knows you are growing through it. Lean into Him and give Him all your cares. Put your trust in Him. His timing is impeccable.
In His Love,
All the very best for you and your family! ‘Family’ is a great joy – which overcomes all barriers – but none that without the help of the Lord’s presence would be made possible!
May God bless all of you!
Thank you. And Amen!!
Thank you for such encouraging words on your post Rebekah! I so needed to hear this tonight! Blessings to you!!!! Natasha xxxxx
I’m so glad to hear that it spoke to you. God bless!
Hi Rebekah, I found your words exactly when I needed them. I really hope I can say this sentence at some stage in my life: “I wish I could go back and tell my single self that she will be okay.” I am 38 and it is so hard to “wait”. Thank you Rebekah.
Hi Lena, I am 37 so I understand how hard it is to wait, especially as we move out of our twenties. I had many lonely nights, and I remember how difficult it was at times to keep trusting God to provide me with a partner. I can say without a doubt that as hard as waiting is, it is worth it! Don’t settle for less than God’s best for you. When the time comes, you’ll be so happy that you didn’t compromise yourself in the process. When I finally did meet my husband, things moved very quickly! I’m not saying you should rush into anything, but I think at our age, we have a better idea of who we are in God and what we need in a partner so you don’t necessarily have to date for five years to know if he is God’s will for you. Your situation could be completely different a year from now so keep holding on for the time being. God is with you and He has your best in mind. Much love and blessings. – Rebekah L.